Having spent the last 2 years trying to conceive, I decied to set up a blog, more for my own sanity and self-preservation, as well as wanting to help others in the same predicament as us. My poor friends, work colleagues, family and not to mention, my partner, have all been embrolied in this tireless fruitless journey of highs (IUI that I was convinced would work) and lows (when it didn’t). This site will hopefully lay to rest any concerns, doubts or thoughts you may have. Those moments alone when you convince yourself you are ok. Or the days you just can’t understand why this is happening to you and your prayers dont seem to be answered (this is someone who only used to pray when they wanted good grades in their University exams!!)
When the Dr’s told us that my partner and I had “unexplained infertility”, then patted us on the backs and told us to keep trying for another 6 months, we had no idea what that phrase meant and how potentially devastating it could be to our lives. You don’t quite grasp the level of stress this sort of thing puts on you as a person, or as a couple. Not to mention to constant talking about it with your friends and family (poor them!). The amount of times people must have cringed and had to bear listening to me talking about my cycle….I dread to think!
If you can’t laugh (as well as cry!) during the whole process (and it is a seriously emotional & physical one), then you’re not releasing your real emotions during the time you are trying to conceive.
Over the years, I have looked at and googled hundreds of sites for information on “unexplained infertility” and Polysistic as this is where my condition apparently lay. Some sites pointed me to self-help blogs, others were chat rooms for infertile women like myself, needing reassurance, guidance, explanations.
I also searched for the best Doctors to go to, the highest success rates of clinics, and self-medicated (which one Dr told me off for!) with Vitamins B6, cyclogest (from a friend), nutrition advice, what to eat, not eat, wear, dont wear, drink, dont drink. The list is endless and yet none of the things I did, nor the time, energy and money spent, gave us the goal we were searching for. To become parents.